In my post a few weeks ago about extroverts having feelings too, I mentioned that I’m an incredibly extroverted person. I don’t always need to be around people, but I thrive in conversations with others. I don’t mind (and sometimes hope) to have conversations on the plane – please don’t hate me, I’m not annoying, I promise! And I will always opt for an in-person meeting over a phone call if at all possible. And I look forward to long drives, so I can talk to the people with whom I’m in the car! When I’m all alone and need to do an Instagram story, however, I get nervous and incredibly self-conscious. All my self-confidence goes out the window. This extrovert and social media don’t always get along…
I can’t tell you how many stories I’ve recorded, listened to my voice, seen my face, and heard what I was talking about over and over again, just to delete it. Then I put my phone down, shake my head that I suck at social media, and go back to my solitary day. It was almost stifling to post to my stories at times.
Amidst all this self-scrutiny, however, I saw a few instances of other bloggers who post CONSTANTLY on their stories sharing that they were introverts. WTF!?! If they were introverts, how come they could post so easily? And how come I, as an extrovert, felt social media thwarted my efforts to be more ‘me’ on social media? The math didn’t add up.
How Extroverts Thrive
It wasn’t until I started having these introvert/extrovert conversations with my husband recently that I started to figure it out. As an extrovert, I thrive off of conversation with others. Seeing responses to what I say, making eye contact, and engaging on some level with others fuels my soul. With Instagram stories, however, I’m talking to myself. I can’t feed off of responses from the people with whom I’m communicating. I can’t make sarcastic or witty replies for just those in our conversation. In essence, I can’t be me and it’s emotionally draining.
Extroverts and Social Media
Late last year, two very dear friends (totally separate from one another) started encouraging me to do more stories, to share more ‘Luci.’ I started telling them that I never felt comfortable doing it and I was sure I had nothing interesting to say if I wasn’t traveling. They were shocked and told me to keep trying and it would come more naturally.
In truth, it has gotten a bit easier as I do it more often, but one of the real keys to my increasing comfort are the replies I get – more often than not from these two sweet friends. Since I thrive off of the interaction, I LOVE when I get responses to my stories. It’s a fun boost of energy – even if it’s just an emoji. Replies to my Instagram stories honestly make my day as they validate what I’m saying as worth your time. I work at home alone most days, so it gives me that social boost I need! I’m sure you extroverts out there can relate!
But to complete this conversation about introverts/extroverts and social media. If all of the above is true for me, then it means that communicating without having to face immediate response or eyes staring back can make it an easier experience for many introverts! Introverts can thrive off of a self-controlled form of communication. They can organize their thoughts on their own schedule and share their words without fear of immediate response (positive or negative). Just the opposite of what you’d think
How You Can Help
So in addition to being another effort to put this conversation out into the cosmos, I suppose it’s also a small plea to ask you to reply back to me when I post on stories. Honestly, I REALLY LOVE IT! And don’t be afraid to do it for everyone else out there you’re watching too!