As I mentioned in last week’s post on the realities of pregnancy, people have a lot to say about your pregnancy. They also have a lot of questions. The usual gamut of questions from your first announcement until your little one is here runs along the following lines: how far along are you; how have you been feeling; are you going to find out the sex; have you had ultrasounds (I can’t figure out this one); and do you know what name you’re going with! We’ve passed the stage for all those other ones, so it’s just the last one we’ve been answering. And no surprise, but picking baby names is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time…
Picking Baby Names
Apparently there are not only baby name books, but you can take a quiz (or one of a thousand quizzes) to have the internet generate a name for you. That’s not something I’m too keen on, though of course I’m no judge on what works for everyone else. And apparently I left the hospital as a newborn without a name because my parents hadn’t decided on one yet! If the internet had been around, maybe they would have used one of those quizzes. I kind of doubt it though! Who knows!
As a historian by training and my father’s daughter, I’ve always been a fan of tradition in many ways (obviously not every way). When it comes to picking our baby boy’s name, I’ve wanted to pick something that has familial meaning. And since our son will be taking my husband’s last name, I feel as though we should pick a first and/or middle name from my family.
One of the things I picked up from my Jewish father was the tradition of Ashkenazi Jews and their baby naming practices. In this line of belief, babies are named after someone in the family who has passed away (more than one year before the baby’s birth date). Common practices include naming a baby exactly after a family member, using the same first letter, or using another name with the same meaning.
I’ve been wiggling this practice a little bit in that I’m open to pulling a name from my mother or father’s families. My dad’s family comes from Poland. Some of the names get incredibly “unique” not too far back, especially for the men. Pulling from both families is giving me some wiggle room for sure!
A few more things about picking baby names, however…
How Many Names Should You Pick out?
A number of people actually told us to have a few options on the list. They say when you see your baby, it’s very likely that you’ll think the name you’ve had in mind is totally wrong. Well! That complicates things doesn’t it?! While we have a front runner name in mind, we’re still trying to keep other names in mind should this happen!
Should You Tell People the Name You’re Thinking of?
This is such a personal thing – the answer is totally up to you. For a variety of reasons, we actually aren’t telling anyone what name we’re thinking of! That thing about changing your mind when you see your little one is a big part of it. We also don’t want to have outside influence on our decision. When you tell someone a name, you get immediate responses (sometimes delayed ones too) about whether or not they like the name. We’re hoping to pick out a name all on our own! I’m also just not ready to commit to anything just yet!
Anything else about Picking Baby Names?
Yes! Practice saying the name out loud. When you’re pregnant, you talk to your kiddo (especially when they stretch or wiggle a lot!). I’ve been adding the name on our minds to see how it sounds out loud. And when my husband and I talk about him, we’ve been saying the name as well as appropriate nicknames to see how it sounds. To be honest, it sounded very weird at first, but now we’re getting used to it more and more! Now to just wait those last 7 weeks for him to get here!!